The Power of the Script

On a flight from Chicago to Los Angeles, I had the opportunity to sit next to an executive producer of “tween” cable shows. During the course of the conversation, I asked him, “What was the most important element of your show’s success?” In the context of our conversation, I assumed he would indicate the visual element. To my surprise, he immediately responded, “The script.”

The producer explained how a powerful script enables a mediocre visual presentation to become a successful program. He added that the music is the next important element. Evidently when music is accompanied by great words the result is a much more successful show. The visual aspect of a production was of least importance to this Hollywood producer.

Too many businesses have fallen into this trap. They think their financial success is dependent on their public image. They believe to be effective; their product or service message is secondary so long as they have an acceptable impression. The key, however, is in the script. What you SAY is the most important element of your business. What consumer’s hear is far more important than what they see. Delivering on your promises validates the adage, Reputation is what people say you are; character is who you truly are.

This is a lesson for relationships. It’s not the show of unity that counts it’s the script that dictates. What do you SAY to each other? You don’t have to dress glitzy or glamorous to demonstrate a good relationship. It’s not how you look when you are in front of others it’s your words that matter. Combined with the appropriate actions to demonstrate integrity, your words are the key ingredients in a long-term successful relationship.

The power is in the script.

Fidelity in Relationships

I think the key indicator for wealth is not good grades, work ethic, or IQ. I believe it’s relationships. ― Jarod Kintz

56 Notions of Ethics is being written with the idea that you have reached your desired goal and now you will be tempted with ethical decisions to sustain success. You have landed in new territory. You haven’t been here before. You look all around and can easily become tempted with the trappings of success.

This is where many a business owner and manager forget about the people that helped them reach their goal. Ethical success means you remain faithful in your relationships. Fidelity is lost when you lose the big picture. Having achieved your goal, you plateau. There is no willingness to go on to the bigger picture. You want to partake in selfish glory.

Elizabeth came to me for advice on how to handle her manager. She was doing her best to fulfill her job description but he was accusing her of altering contracts. She insisted she had done no such thing and was distraught with the accusation.

Obviously there is no advice for her on how to handle her manager. The advice was directed towards how to handle herself whilst working for such a person.

As the narrative unfolded, it was apparent her manager had altered contracts in the past to meet his sales goals. He assumed that if he was guilty of this act so must be those around him. Crooked managers look through crooked lens and see crookedness in the actions of good staff. Then they wonder why they have a problem with staff loyalty!

Fidelity in relationships is a cornerstone to sustained success.

Unfortunately, many, like Elizabeth’s manager, tend to be paranoid and spend a lot of time analyzing the past. These same energies could be utilized more effectively learning how to do the right thing going forward.

On a darker side, some give in to impulses and sudden desires. After obtaining their desired level of success, they assume it provides a “right” to excess. The temptations usually arrive in the face of new opposition. Assuming that success is not an event, they neglect further development of their selves. They lose real progress and worse, they lose their lack of purpose.

When leaders choose to be unfaithful in their relationships, it indicates a reluctance to complete what was started. The daring actions that led to success are now used to flirt with unethical actions. It appears as if they have lost their nerve and become indecisive where it matters most.

The temptations of Success are not meant to be snares to bring you down. They are opportunities for you to be propelled further upwards. Learning how to triumph in the face of adversity is not limited to one lesson. It is a constant battle. With Success, you learn how to be cunning in battle.

Losing fidelity in relationships usually come at a time when victory was almost in sight. Yet the problem is just that: obvious victory cannot be seen at that point. You have to trust and believe you can manifest to a new level. Move beyond the temptations and actualize your scope of living from a larger standpoint.

You just might have to stand back and ask yourself, “Where am I allowing the details to get in the way of my sustained success?”

Unfaithfulness in relationships is self-sabotaging. Don’t get caught up in psychological warfare. Lead from the front with your eyes focused on the greater good for all.

Challenge: Ethics is faithfulness in relationships. Do I think I deserve to exploit my successes selfishly? Or am I determined to sustain fidelity in all my relationships?