Creating a safety net is important for handling personal abuse.
Responding to verbal abuse requires a strength of character. This strength is intensified when a person is acting with the blessing and power of a group. That is why it is so important that you surround yourself with a group of individuals with whom you are safe. The collective group becomes your safety net of protection.
In this post, you are encouraged to combine all you learned from the previous two posts and summarize them into one word:
- Guard your tongue.
- Guard your integrity.
- Guard your judgement.
Your tongue represents your body and all the practical knowledge you have obtained regarding abuse, abusers and confronting them when they strike.
Your integrity represents your soul and all the practical understanding you have gained to refrain from reacting to an abuser hiding behind a mask.
Your judgment represents your spirit and the practical wisdom you have discovered to empower you with positivity and goodness as weapons against abuse.
The ancient story of Job’s temptations sheds additional light on the essence of cursing. As he was tempted to curse God, he taught us how integrity overpowers abusive circumstances.
1. Cursing is a reaction to unforeseen, unwanted circumstances (1:11).
- In its context (1:5), cursing is an outward expression of inward feelings!
- Cursing begins in the heart and manifests itself outwardly through lack of self-control.
- Create a code word with your support group to signal an expression of support.
2. Cursing is an expected reaction when you are physically abused (2:5).
- In its context (2:9), cursing compromises your integrity. When you react abusively to abuse, you lose touch with the essence of your own character.
- Identify the three best virtues of your support group. This will help you protect your own integrity as you identify with those same virtues.
- Create a group motto or relevant mantra to use as an affirmation.
3. Cursing of a circumstance is acceptable so long as it is not cursing a person (compare 3:1, 8 with 31:30).
- A curse is meant to be the promised evil for inappropriate behavior (5:1-3; 24:2, 14-18).
- Identify three good aspects of the abuser. This does two things. Firstly, it helps you understand yourself to protect your integrity. Secondly, it reminds you to respond to the spirit and not react to the pained soul.
- Summarize the good into an affirmation. Use the affirmation as motivation to respond calmly but firmly with a positive spirit.
Meditation for Healing from Abuse
We come together and feel the protection we have as a Team. We are thankful that during moments of rage and abuse, we have a Team to intervene. We are thankful for the safety net provided by our community. We see the mask of verbal abuse hiding the abuser’s pain. We are empowered with self-control. We are protected physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. We declare victory within each ourselves and enjoy freedom from the abuser.