Applied Wisdom for Verbal Abuse

Creating a safety net is important for handling personal abuse.

Responding to verbal abuse requires a strength of character. This strength is intensified when a person is acting with the blessing and power of a group. That is why it is so important that you surround yourself with a group of individuals with whom you are safe. The collective group becomes your safety net of protection.

In this post, you are encouraged to combine all you learned from the previous two posts and summarize them into one word:

GUARD!

  1. Guard your tongue.
  2. Guard your integrity.
  3. Guard your judgement.

Your tongue represents your body and all the practical knowledge you have obtained regarding abuse, abusers and confronting them when they strike.

Your integrity represents your soul and all the practical understanding you have gained to refrain from reacting to an abuser hiding behind a mask.

Your judgment represents your spirit and the practical wisdom you have discovered to empower you with positivity and goodness as weapons against abuse.

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The ancient story of Job’s temptations sheds additional light on the essence of cursing. As he was tempted to curse God, he taught us how integrity overpowers abusive circumstances.

1. Cursing is a reaction to unforeseen, unwanted circumstances (1:11).

  • In its context (1:5), cursing is an outward expression of inward feelings!
  • Cursing begins in the heart and manifests itself outwardly through lack of self-control.
  • Create a code word with your support group to signal an expression of support.

2. Cursing is an expected reaction when you are physically abused (2:5).

  • In its context (2:9), cursing compromises your integrity. When you react abusively to abuse, you lose touch with the essence of your own character.
  • Identify the three best virtues of your support group. This will help you protect your own integrity as you identify with those same virtues.
  • Create a group motto or relevant mantra to use as an affirmation.

3. Cursing of a circumstance is acceptable so long as it is not cursing a person (compare 3:1, 8 with 31:30).

  • A curse is meant to be the promised evil for inappropriate behavior (5:1-3; 24:2, 14-18).
  • Identify three good aspects of the abuser. This does two things. Firstly, it helps you understand yourself to protect your integrity. Secondly, it reminds you to respond to the spirit and not react to the pained soul.
  • Summarize the good into an affirmation. Use the affirmation as motivation to respond calmly but firmly with a positive spirit.

Meditation for Healing from Abuse

We come together and feel the protection we have as a Team. We are thankful that during moments of rage and abuse, we have a Team to intervene. We are thankful for the safety net provided by our community. We see the mask of verbal abuse hiding the abuser’s pain. We are empowered with self-control. We are protected physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. We declare victory within each ourselves and enjoy freedom from the abuser.

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Affirmations For Thoughtful Success

Success begins with what you think about. Your triumph in accomplishing your goals is a planned execution of specific precepts. These precepts are learned study. And there is no better way to study than to read. 

The more that you read, the more things that you know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go. – Dr Suess 

Take the time to read! Research. Meditate on ancient texts. It will empower you with the precepts required for success. These texts are the root of your power. They will give you the change of mind you need. Pursue ultimate truth and you will find the new beginning you are looking for.

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There are four sections in my book, 56 Notions of Success. Each section has 14 chapters. Every chapter ends with a related affirmation. Here are the 14 affirmations for thoughtful success.

  1. I enjoy the success in pursuing ultimate truth.
  2. I am an achiever.
  3. I balance relationships with courage and affection.
  4. I embrace change to make way for what is better.
  5. I am part of an eternal plan for greater good.
  6. I empower those around me with practical wisdom.
  7. I am the master in my field of endeavor.
  8. I find guidance in solitude.
  9. I am patient to triumph over adversity.
  10. I am strong with productive values.
  11. I have courage to move in the middle of opposition.
  12. I have a keen intellect believing in the dignity of all.
  13. I am eternal with everlasting beginnings.
  14. I am strong in difficult situations.

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The Power of Silence

Noise can be used to balance our inner development. More often, however, it is used to escape personal responsibility.

Many people go through life trying to avoid finding themselves. They are afraid of quiet, filling it with music, lectures, and conversations. They are fearful of solitude, making sure they are attending social events and surrounded by family members.

Noise can be used to balance our inner development. More often, however, it is used to escape personal responsibility. The entertainment industry thrives on populace escapism.

Successful persons never stop growing. They believe there is a need for continuous improvement. They are not afraid of quiet meditation and contemplation.

They have learned the power of silence.

When teaching salespersons, I encouraged them to be strong after presenting their close. If they are confident in their product, their presentation, and their person, they can be quiet and wait for the response. In negotiations, the first person who speaks gives away the power.

In personal development, the power is in the silence.

  • Be still and mediate.
  • Be still and contemplate.
  • Be still and listen.

You will be amazed at what you hear!