“Good” Success

Did you ever consider that some success is bad?

Have you reached a goal and then felt guilty? Is the guilt genuine because you used people for your own means? Are you losing sight as to what is truly important? Don’t lose hope – there is help!

It begins by learning the secret of “good” success.

How to sustain success is not often addressed. Its method, although known, is not widely publicized. Yet its secret is used by a vast number of successful people.

Truly successful persons understand the gift to bestow and the power of altruism.

In the previous post, it was established that a business plan is needed. However, its value exists only if the foundations are in place. To sustain success, you must incorporate ethics into your plan.

Andrew Carnegie

In March 2015, a debate ended sourly inside the West Auckland suburb of Titirangi, New Zealand. A couple bought a piece of property to develop. They wanted to build their dream home. To fulfill their dream required local government consent to cut down a tree. The tree was a “young” Kauri about 300-400 years old. The Council consented. That is when the fireworks began.

A polarized society responded. On one hand were those who believe in individual property rights. They believed freedom was being attacked. On the other hand were those who believe that native fauna of that vintage belong to the people not individuals.

The couple abandoned their dream and the tree still stands. At the heart of the dilemma is altruism versus egoism.

  • If you believe in the protection of property rights to the fullest, you will express altruism differently. You will champion the individual as representative of Society.
  • If you believe in the protection of resources to the fullest, you will express altruism differently. You will champion the resource as belonging to Society and not individuals.

Altruism preserves for a greater good. Egoism deconstructs for individual purposes. The Kauri removal debate illustrates how ethics are not created in isolation. New Zealand as a Society was forced to consider what it valued as the greater good. The couple adhered to all the rules of law yet Society deemed its written law did not express a value they held to be above the law.

Your success, if motivated by egoism and created in isolation, is not good.

Albert Einstein

Practical Exercise

  1. Identify your personal values of worth.
  2. Consider how you practice your values with your immediate family.
  3. Incorporate your values into your business plan.
  4. Create a Code of Conduct for your business.

Integrity is the foundation for your inner actions, the heart of who you are. Your “walk” is watched by others. It will match how you “talk” to yourself. When you align the inner talk with the outer walk, you are “upright”, “righteous”, or true to yourself. Like the Rugby goal posts, you stand upright, rigid, and unwavering to the balls kicked your way.

Related post: Foundations for Entrepreneurs

Love My Ego?

What does it mean to “love yourself”? Are we to love our Ego? No! Your Ego is not your Essence.

Jesus taught the foundation for loving God is built on a love for yourself. He specifically taught: “thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:39).

When your Essence entered Time, she travelled through a specific Space. The selected path led to a precise landing point. She arrived to manifest herself in You. You are a unique expression of Divinity.

You entered a preselected environment. Your physical conception was a direct result of a combination between a particular male and female. Your emotions were developed by interacting with your local culture. Your abilities were sharpened through exploring your environment’s composition. All of this means your personality was shaped within Time and Place.

Your Person, however, is not who you are. Your Essence is that part of God released into this world to discover the beauty of herself. Your Person is what you are; your Essence is who you are. This difference explains why so many cannot find peace during Life’s crises. They live in ignorance of their true nature. They substitute distractions for substantive reflection. And when a crisis is delivered by Life, they are thrown completely out of balance.

Peter encouraged early Christians to “be partakers of the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4). You have within the essence of the divine. To love yourself is not to love your Ego or your Personality, it is to love that Holy Spirit within who seeks to empower and reconnect you with the Absolute.

That’s why I say, “It’s Okay to Love Yourself.”