Creating a safety net is important for handling personal abuse.
Responding to verbal abuse requires a strength of character. This strength is intensified when a person is acting with the blessing and power of a group. That is why it is so important that you surround yourself with a group of individuals with whom you are safe. The collective group becomes your safety net of protection.
In this post, you are encouraged to combine all you learned from the previous two posts and summarize them into one word:
- Guard your tongue.
- Guard your integrity.
- Guard your judgement.
Your tongue represents your body and all the practical knowledge you have obtained regarding abuse, abusers and confronting them when they strike.
Your integrity represents your soul and all the practical understanding you have gained to refrain from reacting to an abuser hiding behind a mask.
Your judgment represents your spirit and the practical wisdom you have discovered to empower you with positivity and goodness as weapons against abuse.
The ancient story of Job’s temptations sheds additional light on the essence of cursing. As he was tempted to curse God, he taught us how integrity overpowers abusive circumstances.
1. Cursing is a reaction to unforeseen, unwanted circumstances (1:11).
- In its context (1:5), cursing is an outward expression of inward feelings!
- Cursing begins in the heart and manifests itself outwardly through lack of self-control.
- Create a code word with your support group to signal an expression of support.
2. Cursing is an expected reaction when you are physically abused (2:5).
- In its context (2:9), cursing compromises your integrity. When you react abusively to abuse, you lose touch with the essence of your own character.
- Identify the three best virtues of your support group. This will help you protect your own integrity as you identify with those same virtues.
- Create a group motto or relevant mantra to use as an affirmation.
3. Cursing of a circumstance is acceptable so long as it is not cursing a person (compare 3:1, 8 with 31:30).
- A curse is meant to be the promised evil for inappropriate behavior (5:1-3; 24:2, 14-18).
- Identify three good aspects of the abuser. This does two things. Firstly, it helps you understand yourself to protect your integrity. Secondly, it reminds you to respond to the spirit and not react to the pained soul.
- Summarize the good into an affirmation. Use the affirmation as motivation to respond calmly but firmly with a positive spirit.
Meditation for Healing from Abuse
We come together and feel the protection we have as a Team. We are thankful that during moments of rage and abuse, we have a Team to intervene. We are thankful for the safety net provided by our community. We see the mask of verbal abuse hiding the abuser’s pain. We are empowered with self-control. We are protected physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. We declare victory within each ourselves and enjoy freedom from the abuser.
Harmonizing who you are with what you want to accomplish is found when you embrace your biggest dreams. To live a balanced life, you cannot ignore your dreams. Part of being happy every day is possessing a passion to pursue goals that connect with your innermost desires. That is why true success is not being a superstar: it is found in fulfilling your dream.
Most people who fail in their dream fail not from lack of ability but from lack of commitment. – Zig Ziglar
I received testimony from a woman who talked about how she grew up learning to dance. She was more than a typical little girl dreaming of becoming a ballerina–she literally did! She danced as part of a National Royal Ballet troupe before realizing she had fulfilled her mother’s dream. What was hers? She set out on her own even moving to another country. There she became a Regional Director of her own Insurance Agency.
Don’t measure yourself by other’s standards. Don’t be ruled by colleagues, friends, or family’s ideas of what your success looks like. Don’t allow society, churches, clubs, or any other organization dictate what you should or should not do. Only you know the true picture. It lies within your heart.
- Dare to dream it.
- Dare to imagine it.
- Dare to create it.
Here are 14 Affirmations to Motivate Results from my book, 56 Notions of Success,
- I am abundant with unconscious power.
- I am a loving visionary leader.
- I am loving with a unified body and soul.
- I am happy and fulfilled with a safety net.
- I have a vision with purpose.
- I happily achieve my vision.
- I am self-aware and prepared for consequential actions.
- I am in harmony with my past, present and future.
- I have courage to fulfill my dreams.
- I am wealthy in knowledge and give from it freely.
- I have power to pursue my dreams.
- I am happy and content with my life.
- I am content taking charge of my new world.
- I am refined bringing high principled ideas.
Every successful enterprise begins with intention. You intend on carrying out a vision. You intend on fulfilling a dream. You intend on bringing into reality a thought of your mind.
All the good intentions in the world are of no value unless they resurrect from your mind into the real world. However, intentions alone do not create success. You must connect your intent with your passion. It is your passion that moves your vision into reality.
A body at rest affords us no idea of any active power to move, and when set in motion, it is rather a passion than an action in it. – Locke
The story of Jesus Christ’s death, burial and resurrection has been zealously preserved. It is a pattern for success. Your vision is not alive until it goes through an internal crucifixion. Jesus’ crucifixion is referred to in theology as his PASSION.
The influence of Jesus’ teachings motivated enemies to cause his premature death. The effect of Christ’s suffering leading up to that death, however, empowered a resurrection of his teachings.
Your intentions will not find power until an external agent is forced upon them. That is why many success stories are born from adversity. The suffering, the denial, the betrayals, the failures all became motivation to make the concept real.
Here are 14 Affirmations to Motivate Success from my book, 56 Notions of Success,
- I am passionate to move my intentions into action.
- I am a motivational leader.
- I am wealthy with my ideas coming to fruition.
- I am strong and confident in my abilities and skills.
- I am a refined Professional enjoying the fruit of my labor.
- I am a wise project manager.
- I am mentally engaged growing through life’s challenges.
- I am victorious through hard work and effort.
- I have an unconquerable spirit!
- I deliver news faithfully and energetically.
- I am a fire spreading goodness.
- I am strong, stable, and in good health.
- I am honorable in conduct possessing good fortune.
- I am well liked with confident actions.
Success begins with what you think about. Your triumph in accomplishing your goals is a planned execution of specific precepts. These precepts are learned study. And there is no better way to study than to read.
The more that you read, the more things that you know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go. – Dr Suess
Take the time to read! Research. Meditate on ancient texts. It will empower you with the precepts required for success. These texts are the root of your power. They will give you the change of mind you need. Pursue ultimate truth and you will find the new beginning you are looking for.
There are four sections in my book, 56 Notions of Success. Each section has 14 chapters. Every chapter ends with a related affirmation. Here are the 14 affirmations for thoughtful success.
- I enjoy the success in pursuing ultimate truth.
- I am an achiever.
- I balance relationships with courage and affection.
- I embrace change to make way for what is better.
- I am part of an eternal plan for greater good.
- I empower those around me with practical wisdom.
- I am the master in my field of endeavor.
- I find guidance in solitude.
- I am patient to triumph over adversity.
- I am strong with productive values.
- I have courage to move in the middle of opposition.
- I have a keen intellect believing in the dignity of all.
- I am eternal with everlasting beginnings.
- I am strong in difficult situations.
Daily affirmations are so important. Every day you should audibly “affirm” something positive about yourself, your intent, and your belief. Affirmations are encouraged by Master Jesus where he taught:
Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, “Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea;” and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Mark 11:23
This eternal mother principle of fertility, beauty, happiness and productiveness begins inside your heart. It proceeds from your heart out through your mouth. It leaves your mouth and becomes a reality. It works like magic!
In my book, 56 Notions of Success, every chapter ends with a related affirmation. You are encouraged to adapt them for yourself. Every morning state them audibly. You’ll be amazed what it does for you “inside and out.”
Here are 14 Affirmations For Success:
- I am wealthy and appreciate the good things in life.
- I am a student of abundance.
- I act when the time is right.
- I am a specialist within my field of endeavor.
- I work for the greater good.
- I am a student of Strategy.
- I am charismatic and gifted to bestow.
- I am prosperous, sharing my wealth.
- I am victorious in life’s rhythm.
- I am a protector of unique knowledge.
- I am skilled and my inspired interests are profitable.
- I am abundant enjoying my hard earned success.
- I am a wealthy family man.
- I am noble in working to fulfill my purpose.
Related Post: Words Create What Thought Imagines
One of the greatest barriers to lasting success is the inability to repeat your initial success.
Momentum is often described as the tendency to repeat recent success.
Momentum is the constant repeating of small steps that build a force of movement. Success begins to happen over and over again. That movement increases in speed. Its quantity of motion in so many small areas of life begin to generate its own power. The created strength becomes an impetus to change the course of events.
How do you sustain such successes in life?
By sustaining momentum.
And how do you sustain such a moving power?
The answer is contained in one word: affirmations.
The best affirmations are those constructed just for you.
- Identify your goal;
- Recognize each step required to reach that goal;
- Craft an affirmation related to each step of your goal;
- State each affirmation daily without doubt, believing its statement of future position is presently fulfilled.
Every affirmation is like a screw you drive down into your success boardwalk. Have faith in your ability to reach success. You will have whatever you say.
Daily affirmations are key to sustaining momentum. Every day, audibly affirm something positive about yourself, your intent, and your belief.
Affirmations are key to sustaining momentum.
Words Create what Thought Imagines
Barriers to Success
The first step in fulfilling your New Year Resolution is to create an accompanying affirmation.
This is the time when resolutions are made for the New Year. A resolution is a statement articulating an inner determination. To “resolve” to carry out something is directly connected to your will.
The reason most people do not keep their New Year resolutions is because they expressed them from their mind and not their will.
To know what to do is not the same as determining to do what you know.
Such determination comes from the heart.
In the Barriers to Success workshop, we emphasize creating personal affirmations. We have successfully coached many in this technique. It works because it shifts your mind to align with your heart.
To fulfill your New Year’s resolution, create affirmations that describe feelings of successfully fulfilling that resolution. For instance many resolve to loss weight such as, “I am going to lose 25 pounds this year.” Examples of affirmations to help this goal:
- I am abundant with good health.
- I love how I feel about who I am.
- I look good in my clothes.
This thinking aligns our actions to meet the goal. You begin making healthy choices to eat because you daily remind yourself you are abundant in good health. You choose clothes you look good in now and you feel good about who are in the moment.
This transformation is both immediate and long-term. It may take time to actually lose that weight, but you immediately begin to fulfill your Resolution.
May you be blessed with prosperity and abundance in 2017.