The Value of Routine

Success is obtained by a predesigned routine adhered to faithfully. Routine can also sustain success. It keeps you focused on what truly matters when you are tempted to break the rules.

There will be times after you reach success that chaotic circumstances arrive to confuse you. When mentoring one such person we will name Isaac, I stressed the importance of keeping his appointments for coaching. I have learned that when going through difficult patches in life, keeping appointments forces you to continue even when you feel like quitting.

Isaac expressed a feeling of guilt in keeping his appointments. He explained that he felt like he was just surviving from one to the next. He stated he was not being fair to me as his counselor. The reality, of course, was just the opposite. His guilt was false; his routine was enabling survival; and raw truth is the substance in which success can be rediscovered.

From those appointments where days passed in between, Isaac was encouraged to start implementing a bit of reading, meditating, and exercising. At first he could only handle 5 minutes of each. The time spent was not so important as the creation of the habit.

Determine you will grow and keep every new appointment. Reward yourself with something relaxing. Do not feel guilty. You are developing a routine. You are working with a purpose and resting with intent.

Volunteer for some cause. The regular contribution will fill your calendar. You are living! Visualize a life with Hope. It is within your grasp.

I cannot stress how important it is that you create a routine as soon as possible. This is where Religion can be helpful. Regular attendance to their scheduled services sustains a routine. Opportunities to serve others through their ministries enhance your routine.

Do what you must to develop weekly activities and hold yourself accountable to keep these commitments. You will find Hope opening its door as you develop a routine through Life.

And this is the fascinating intersection of Ethics with Religion.

Being reared with a heavy influence of the religious community, I was always under the impression that ethics is an extension of religion. Imagine how surprised I was once I learned to read classical literature. Discovering that ethics preceded western Christianity was revolutionary. However, to pretend the great sages of old did not have spiritual ideologies is equivalent to burying one’s head in the sand.

Religion is “the belief in and worship of a superhuman controlling power, especially a personal God or gods” (Oxford Dictionary Press). In practice, stripped to its core, Religion is merely routine. It is a set of practices (worship) that exercise their core values (belief). In this sense, Ethics and Religion are one and the same.

Ethics is a faithful adherence to what is perceived as good and right. This begins with integrity. Integrity is being true to one’s self. This practice of self-truthfulness in action expands to a practice of truthfulness in relationships with others. Ethics is the working out of personalized truths and in this sense shares a practice on par with Religion.

Religion did not give birth to Ethics. It is the other way around. The point is that so-called “non-religious” persons are often ethical because of their religious-like practices. They may not belong to a particular worship of God or gods; yet their life is full of routine that elevates values beyond themselves.

And it is the emphasis of this routine that keeps our actions consistent with ethical values.

The Power of Silence

Many people go through life trying to avoid finding themselves. They are afraid of quiet, filling it with music, lectures, and conversations. They are fearful of solitude, making sure they are attending social events and surrounded by family members.

Noise can be used to balance our inner development. More often, however, it is used to escape personal responsibility. The entertainment industry thrives on populace escapism.

Successful persons never stop growing. They believe there is a need for continuous improvement. They are not afraid of quiet meditation and contemplation.

They have learned the power of silence.

When teaching salespersons, I encouraged them to be strong after presenting their close. If they are confident in their product, their presentation, and their person, they can be quiet and wait for the response. In negotiations, the first person who speaks gives away the power.

In personal development, the power is in the silence.

  • Be still and mediate.
  • Be still and contemplate.
  • Be still and listen.

You will be amazed at what you hear!

Love My Ego?

What does it mean to “love yourself”? Are we to love our Ego? No! Your Ego is not your Essence.

Jesus taught the foundation for loving God is built on a love for yourself. He specifically taught: “thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:39).

When your Essence entered Time, she travelled through a specific Space. The selected path led to a precise landing point. She arrived to manifest herself in You. You are a unique expression of Divinity.

You entered a preselected environment. Your physical conception was a direct result of a combination between a particular male and female. Your emotions were developed by interacting with your local culture. Your abilities were sharpened through exploring your environment’s composition. All of this means your personality was shaped within Time and Place.

Your Person, however, is not who you are. Your Essence is that part of God released into this world to discover the beauty of herself. Your Person is what you are; your Essence is who you are. This difference explains why so many cannot find peace during Life’s crises. They live in ignorance of their true nature. They substitute distractions for substantive reflection. And when a crisis is delivered by Life, they are thrown completely out of balance.

Peter encouraged early Christians to “be partakers of the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4). You have within the essence of the divine. To love yourself is not to love your Ego or your Personality, it is to love that Holy Spirit within who seeks to empower and reconnect you with the Absolute.

That’s why I say, “It’s Okay to Love Yourself.”

Interview by Mystical Dragon Bookstore

It was a privilege to be interviewed by one of Carlsbad’s specialist stores. Cristina Burduja, writer for Mystical Dragon, asked questions about success I have never been asked before.

You can read the interview here by clicking on this link.

Resolutions Work Better with Affirmations

This is the time when resolutions are made for the New Year. A resolution is a statement articulating an inner determination. To “resolve” to carry out something is directly connected to your will.

The reason most people do not keep their New Year resolutions is because they expressed them from their mind and not their will.

To know what to do is not the same as determining to do what you know.

Such determination comes from the heart.

In the Barriers to Success workshop, we emphasize creating personal affirmations. We have successfully coached many in this technique. It works because it shifts your mind to align with your heart.

To fulfill your New Year’s resolution, create affirmations that describe feelings of successfully fulfilling that resolution. For instance many resolve to loss weight such as, “I am going to lose 25 pounds this year.” Examples of affirmations to help this goal:

  • I am abundant with good health.
  • I love how I feel about who I am.
  • I look good in my clothes.

This thinking aligns our actions to meet the goal. You begin making healthy choices to eat because you daily remind yourself you are abundant in good health. You choose clothes you look good in now and you feel good about who are in the moment.

This transformation is both immediate and long-term. It may take time to actually lose that weight, but you immediately begin to fulfill your Resolution.

May you be blessed with prosperity and abundance in 2017.

 

Embracing Altruism

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. – Martin Luther King Jr.

Altruism is devoting yourself to the welfare of others. Its opposite is egoism. Egoistic persons habitually value everything solely through self-interests. Egoists are selfish; Altruistic persons are not. Ethics embraces the principle and practice of Altruism.

In March 2015, a debate ended sourly inside the West Auckland suburb of Titirangi, New Zealand. A couple bought a piece of property to develop. They wanted to build their dream home. To fulfill their dream required local government consent to cut down a tree. The tree was a “young” Kauri about 300-400 years old. The Council consented. That is when the fireworks began.

A polarized society responded. On one hand were those who believe in individual property rights. They believed freedom was being attacked. On the other hand were those who believe that native fauna of that vintage belong to the people not individuals.

The couple abandoned their dream and the tree still stands. It is a testimony to ethical dilemmas.

If we replaced the word “tree” with “child” there is no debate. There are strong values shared on both sides that children are to be protected to preserve our future. So is it fair to replace “tree” with “child”? Only to highlight the ethical dilemma.

At the heart of the dilemma is altruism versus egoism.

  • If you believe in the protection of property rights to the fullest, you will express altruism differently. You will champion the individual as representative of Society.
  • If you believe in the protection of resources to the fullest, you will express altruism differently. You will champion the resource as belonging to Society and not individuals.

I will leave the “rightness” of the outcome to your thoughts.

Altruism preserves for a greater good. Egoism deconstructs for individual purposes. When we replace “tree” with “child” it illustrates the power of Altruistic motivates.

The Kauri removal debate illustrates how ethics are not created in isolation. New Zealand as a Society was forced to consider what it valued as the greater good. The couple adhered to all the rules of law yet Society deemed its written law did not express a value they held to be above the law.

I appreciate that perhaps ethics should not change a value because of others; if something is good it is good no matter how many agree or disagree. However, to deny the input of Society is to elevate the individual’s selfish understanding. The result would be as described long ago, “Every man did that which was right in his own eyes.”

I am not advocating Society’s right to change values; I am arguing that the values are discoverable in the midst of Society and that the alternative is open to narcissistic exploitation. I realize Society is not a Person but a collective of people; it is Community.

Community is positive. It invokes feelings of happy social gatherings. Ethics is not meant to be austere; it is an accepted guide to healthy interactions within the Community.

The masses are protected when individual elitists purporting a greater good are stripped of sole determination of “what is good”? It is interesting how such individual’s definition of “good” seems to advance personal agendas.

Challenge: Ethics finds definition of value outside of the individual. Why do I believe my definition of good is correct? Does my understanding of good mutually benefit Society?

Words Create what Thought Imagines

Chapter 1 – 56 Notions of Success (Xlibris: Auckland, January 2015)

Act is the blossom of thought, and joy and suffering are its fruits. – James Allen

It is a privilege to empower persons from different cultures. At the time of this writing, I am contracted as a Corporate Trainer to a major Insurance Corporation. It is wonderful to empower persons from all backgrounds, equipping them with tools for success.

Being based in Auckland, New Zealand, it is rich in culture. One out of every three persons living in Auckland was born outside of New Zealand! It is also home to the largest population of Polynesians in the world. Every week I have new persons from different parts of the world united before me. They all want to be successful.

English is a second language for many of these aspiring business owners. This fact alone challenges me to be ever learning as to how best communicate success principles. My favorite way to get their attention is by using the following statement:

“This is where Christians and Witches agree!”

Polynesians in particular are embedded with a culture of Christianity. The statement arrests their attention—and even more so the attention of the many Christian ministers sitting in my workshops.

I love it!

The context of my statement is introducing the concept of “magic numbers”.

Sales is a numbers game. You work out how many prospects you contacted; calculate the ratio of presentations given; and then count how many closes you made. Learn those three numbers and then put pressure on the system. It takes the pressure off your prospects and yourself.

Where I am currently contracted, the magic numbers are 30-20-10. 30 appointments each week produce 20 presentations of the products. 10 of the 20 presentations average out to be sales. Those three numbers work like magic.

I appreciate Disney and Harry Potter might have tainted our idea of magic. We expect to wave a wand to receive instant results. True magic, however, promotes belief and intent as key to results. Your intentions are of utmost importance! And, of course, whether or not you believe there is a power within you or beyond you to produce the results. That is why I say Witches and Christians agree: both accept faith and heart attitude are required to “move mountains.”

There is a mutual understanding that created results begin in the mind.

Christians teach God desired to create the worlds and thus spoke them into existence. Creation, by their teaching, is a direct result of spoken words that were first conceived as the Creator’s intent.

The first notion of success begins inside of you. What is it you want to create? What is your idea of success? How will you define success? What is the project you wish to complete? You are already thinking about what you want to create. Your intention is to do it. Now believe you can!

This is why daily affirmations are so important. Every day you should audibly “affirm” something positive about yourself, your intent, and your belief. Christians do this by memorizing texts from their bible. Affirmations are encouraged by Jesus where he taught:

Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, “Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea;” and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Mark 11:23

This eternal mother principle of fertility, beauty, happiness and productiveness begins inside your heart. It proceeds from your heart out through your mouth. It leaves your mouth and becomes a reality. It works like magic!

Each notion of success you read ends with a related affirmation. You are encouraged to adapt them for yourself. Every morning state them audibly. You’ll be amazed what it does for you “inside and out.”

Affirmation: I am abundant with unconscious power.

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