Have you met someone that, after you walk away, you are left totally confused?
How about a circumstance in your life that bewilders beyond comprehension every time you think back and try to figure out what happened?
I know I have.
These past two years, in particular, my internal antennae seemed to be working overtime. They are very attuned to picking up these signals.
What is that?
Don’t get me wrong, I can read a dictionary; I do understand the meaning of the word:
What is perplexing being how much those words describe people I meet! They are the noun itself: the act of confusing.
Confusion is an action. It is not a nice one either. You walk away from a conversation or business dealing with a lack of clearness or distinctness.
I have come to realise it is a technique used by some to manipulate and control. It is evil genius in action.
For some, it is intentional.
My Sunday School training kicks in at this point:
God is not the author of confusion, but of peace. (1 Cor 14:33)
This blog isn’t a sermon. It’s just that, that verse helps me understand two things about confusing people:
- Their actions are ungodly; and
- Confusion is the opposite of Peace.
I love my Peace!
I stopped trying to figure out the “Why?” or “What happened?” with some people. It is just who they are. Psychologically, confusion is a disturbed mental state; a disorientation. Some people intentionally keep you off-balance.
My solution has been simple: embrace the idea that some things are okay to be left unresolved.
Whenever feasible, I politely withdraw my dealings with any individual or organisation that disturbs my peace.
Peace is so valuable! It is worth far more than any monetary or social connection gained from meddling with someone given to change.