Fidelity in Relationships

I think the key indicator for wealth is not good grades, work ethic, or IQ. I believe it’s relationships. ― Jarod Kintz

56 Notions of Ethics is being written with the idea that you have reached your desired goal and now you will be tempted with ethical decisions to sustain success. You have landed in new territory. You haven’t been here before. You look all around and can easily become tempted with the trappings of success.

This is where many a business owner and manager forget about the people that helped them reach their goal. Ethical success means you remain faithful in your relationships. Fidelity is lost when you lose the big picture. Having achieved your goal, you plateau. There is no willingness to go on to the bigger picture. You want to partake in selfish glory.

Elizabeth came to me for advice on how to handle her manager. She was doing her best to fulfill her job description but he was accusing her of altering contracts. She insisted she had done no such thing and was distraught with the accusation.

Obviously there is no advice for her on how to handle her manager. The advice was directed towards how to handle herself whilst working for such a person.

As the narrative unfolded, it was apparent her manager had altered contracts in the past to meet his sales goals. He assumed that if he was guilty of this act so must be those around him. Crooked managers look through crooked lens and see crookedness in the actions of good staff. Then they wonder why they have a problem with staff loyalty!

Fidelity in relationships is a cornerstone to sustained success.

Unfortunately, many, like Elizabeth’s manager, tend to be paranoid and spend a lot of time analyzing the past. These same energies could be utilized more effectively learning how to do the right thing going forward.

On a darker side, some give in to impulses and sudden desires. After obtaining their desired level of success, they assume it provides a “right” to excess. The temptations usually arrive in the face of new opposition. Assuming that success is not an event, they neglect further development of their selves. They lose real progress and worse, they lose their lack of purpose.

When leaders choose to be unfaithful in their relationships, it indicates a reluctance to complete what was started. The daring actions that led to success are now used to flirt with unethical actions. It appears as if they have lost their nerve and become indecisive where it matters most.

The temptations of Success are not meant to be snares to bring you down. They are opportunities for you to be propelled further upwards. Learning how to triumph in the face of adversity is not limited to one lesson. It is a constant battle. With Success, you learn how to be cunning in battle.

Losing fidelity in relationships usually come at a time when victory was almost in sight. Yet the problem is just that: obvious victory cannot be seen at that point. You have to trust and believe you can manifest to a new level. Move beyond the temptations and actualize your scope of living from a larger standpoint.

You just might have to stand back and ask yourself, “Where am I allowing the details to get in the way of my sustained success?”

Unfaithfulness in relationships is self-sabotaging. Don’t get caught up in psychological warfare. Lead from the front with your eyes focused on the greater good for all.

Challenge: Ethics is faithfulness in relationships. Do I think I deserve to exploit my successes selfishly? Or am I determined to sustain fidelity in all my relationships?

Author: A Sojourner's Diary

Dr Timothy Rose is a long-term student of ancient writings seeking practical wisdom for the life journey under the sun.

2 thoughts on “Fidelity in Relationships”

  1. I have had a similar experience with a manager like you described. I was the employee that had to reverse the Zenger Miller principle and focus on the person and not the issue. I believe that success, wealth, title or any other measure does not change a person’s behavior. I believe it reveals ones true self. There is so much professionals and their case studies may note. Relationships are everything.


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